A good number of women who are attacked are apparantly chosen because of the way they presented themselves. Something about their posture told the assailant 'here is a weak woman, I can take her'. If you are scared out of your gourd, it will show.
Low self confidence or fearfulness looks like slouched shoulders, head down, arms folded in front or in pockets. Self confidence looks like walking tall, shoulders back, head up, eye to eye contact, arms at the side. One statistic revealed that those trained in martial arts are less likely to ever be attacked because of the way they carry themselves. They've been trained to defend themselves and to not take a weak position. They have self confidence - and it shows.
Try this experiment. The next time you're in a public place, mall, grocery store, the beach, etc, walk past all the people and look them directly in the eye. You might want to smile a little or offer a 'how ya doin'?' so they don't think you're stalking them. You'll be amazed at the number of people who will not look at you. They'll look down or away but not at you. Of course, in some cultures it's not proper to look people in the eye - be sensitive to that. But in many circles you will find it hard to find 10 people who will meet your gaze.
By you looking at them, in some subconscious way you're communicating that you are not afraid, that you have self confidence. You're not sending nonverbal clues that you lack self confidence. To get into the practice of always looking people in the eye, take it one step further and see what color eyes they have. It only takes a quick glance - you're not staring people down but if you make an effort to determine eye color, you can be confident that you're properly looking people head-on in the eyes.
Get your hands out of your pockets when you walk. Uncross those arms that are locked across your chest. Not only does it look stronger and friendlier to have open arms, it's safer. Should the need arise that you need to thwart off a would-be attacker, you're going to need your arms to free yourself. How easy it is for one to come up from behind you and grab you if your arms are tucked neatly away? You're just making it easy. How can you poke out eyeballs, or jab Adams' apples or throw an elbow to the ribs if your arms are hugging yourself?
'But I AM scared', you confess. There are two things you can do about that. One is take some self-defense classes and learn how to not be afraid, to have self confidence. The other and immediate method to change how you project yourself is to 'fake it til you make it'. You may be scared out of your wits, but if you get the self talk going, 'I am NOT afraid' and get the body language to follow it, head up, shoulders back, arms open, then you're at least giving the illusion that you are not a weak prey.
Half of your self confidence safety battle is in your mind. Do something about it - starting right now! Protect your mental health, physical health and overall wellness by achieving true self confidence - and showing it for your own personal safety!
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